Frustration!

I am very frustrated right now! This surrogacy process has been riddled with problems this time. Just about every thing that could go wrong has. The parents are great! But I am just getting annoyed with the agency. I know these are things that may not be any fault of theirs but it doesn't make it easier to deal with. Here is my problem (this time!) I get paid a predetermined amount according to the contract and it starts at 8 weeks and continues every four weeks until delivery then I get the rest of the agreed upon amount. At 8 weeks I asked if they could send it early because we had a trip planned they said we can schedule it to be delivered on the day you are eight weeks but not before. I said great we didn't plan on leaving till the following day so it worked out good. Well that was a Friday and it didn't arrive that day or the next. It came on the following Monday. That was frustrating but as we all know the postal service is unpredictable. The next check came exactly 4 weeks later. Of course this means I would expect the next one four weeks after that. Monday or Tuesday it didn't come so I emailed the agency to see if they could check on it to see when it was sent out. She told me it was sent out Monday but it comes once a month so it won't be on the same day every time. I knew the contract said four weeks not a month, I know it is not a big difference but those of you who know me know that I am very particular and a big time planner so I need to know the exact date of each check so I can budget accordingly. When I told her that she looked into it and decided I was right (was there really any doubt) they would mail them every four weeks and sent me the scheduled mailing dates. Well again it was just a few days difference but to me a big deal, they scheduled to mail them 3 days after my weeks change. When in reality they were supposed to send them on the day the weeks turn which is Friday not the Monday dates they are now sending them. When I asked why they changed it the response was they are just going by the last one they sent and sending them every 4 weeks consecutively to that. Well that just screwed my previous budget to hell and back! I was expecting them to come on the day they are actually sending them out so now I have to adjust and change everything. This is not things that should be done to a pregnant woman. Needless to say I was thinking about whether or not to do this again with my age and multiple c-sections. Now I have to consider if I want to stay with the same agency again or find a new one. I am just very annoyed right now thanks for reading my venting.

Delivery decisions

I know I haven't wrote in a while but that is a good thing! So far this has been pretty much a normal pregnancy. I can definitely tell the difference between a boy and girl now. The boys I was sick but not 24/7 and I would throw up and feel better, for a while at least, but with this girl I am nauseous all the time but have only puked twice. Unfortunately when I was pregnant the other four times I took Zofran for it but now they say it can cause birth defects so I can not take it so I have to live with it. I am almost 15 weeks and the stomach rolling is still there and with the boys it was gone with the first trimester. Now my biggest dilemma is the delivery decision. The first 3 times I had a vaginal delivery but as most of you know with the twins I had a c-section. The midwife I saw said after looking at the incision she thinks we could try a VBAC ( for those of you who don't know that is a Vaginal Birth After Cesarean). My worry is my circumstances first of all I have only went into natural labor once and after c-section they do not do inductions at all so I would have to go into labor on my own. That being said I have a few worries about doing that first of all the hospital is 45 minutes away so I am afraid I won't make it and inadvertently deliver in Tennessee which would not be good. There is also the circumstance that John works an hour away so it could be almost two hours before we could make it to the hospital. Also the boys are a concern since they will be in school and we don't have the family down here to lean on for help with them. So I am not sure what we would be doing with them if I went to the hospital unplanned. With a cesarean the recovery is rough but being able to plan it and have everything in place is very desirable. But it is more expensive and since we are doing it all out of pocket that may be a factor. It would also ensure that I deliver in Kentucky and not Tennessee. I am still discussing this with parents, agency and doctors but I am leaning towards a c-section. Right now we don't know but we will come to a decision soon!