Moving on and Moving up

So as most of you know my family and I have decided to move to Tennessee! It is scary and exciting all at the same time. I truly know we are doing what is best for our family. I am still continuing my surrogacy journey. There have already been some issues come up. Tennessee is a surrogate friendly state however they have some laws that are not conducive to my situation. Apparently my name would have to be on the birth certificate along with the fathers since they are using an egg donor. The mother would have to do a step parent adoption with the baby or babies. If they lived in TN it would be a different situation but this is what it is with us. So in trying to come up with a solution we discussed the possibility of me coming back to Ohio to deliver and staying with family. The only problem with that is leaving John at home with the kids and with his new job he will be working till 10pm so that is not possible. Then I told her one of the places we are looking is actually about 15 minutes from Kentucky. She got excited and looked into it and said that will actually work! So now I will find a doctor and deliver in KY to avoid the legal issues. I will have to work with a new lawyer to work out the details but it will all work out fine. I am anxious to get the process started and I know in my heart it will all turn out great! Thanks for reading!

I am cleared health wise to do the surrogacy, however the contract is taking a bit longer than expected. It has to be translated and if that is difficult enough there are legal words in there that make it harder to translate. Once that is in place we will begin the process. We are also moving in the middle of all this so it will be jam packed with everything going on. I have a lot to figure out but hopefully by the end of September I am pregnant. Now we wait!

Stuff

I have so much stuff going on right now! Next week I should be getting my last Chicken Pox vaccine and after that we can start the fertility process. We have to have a contract in place before that can happen though, and due to some extenuating circumstances that may take longer than expected. I know the parents are trying to be very patient but they did not expect it to take this long. They so want it to happen and so do I. I know that taking the time will be what helps make this a success even though I want to give it to them now. I believe that it is all happening this way for a reason whether my body needs the time or we as people just need it. It will happen for us but there are always bumps in the road and they will make the experience better for everyone involved I truly believe that.

Unique

Each experience is unique and there are different things done every time. That being said today I had my last pretest done and it was an HSG where they did X-rays with contrast to check and make sure my tubes are clear. How do they get the contrast in there you ask well they insert a catheter into your uterus so yes it is done vaginally. Why does it matter if my tubes are clear or not I am not releasing an egg but apparently it is proven that if they are clogged it can effect your chances of achieving pregnancy. All things I did not know. I also got the results of my blood tests back. They have discovered that I am not immune to the Chicken Pox! I find this funny because I had them when I was a child and also when I went to nursing school since I had no proof of having them I had to get the vaccine for it. Well that was 7 years ago and I am told the vaccine can wear off! I did not know that all vaccines were not permanent. So the doctor will be making the final decision but if I have to get the shot again you get the first one then wait 30-60 days before getting the second one. Then you have to wait 30 days before the transfer can happen because it is a live virus. This may push the transfer date out even more. I have a million things going on right now and this just adds to the list. It's all good though I thrive on being occupied and am not really that stressed over it I guess we will see how that goes!

Appointment

Well I had my first appointment last week with all my pretesting. It went well for the most part. The doctor talked to me about my history and did a physical exam. He even complimented the doctor who did my c-section saying he could barely tell where the incision was made on the uterus. He said everything looks good! He did express concern in transferring two embryos and explained all the risks but said as long as we all understand and agree to it he would transfer two. Well next I went to see the psychologist, which is the same one I saw the last time, and she did her evaluation. Last time she told the parents that they should not transfer two that it would be unfair to the kids but never questioned me about it. This time she tried to persuade me against it. She was saying "What if one splits and it ends up being triplets? And if that happens would you do selective reduction?" I told her if that was the case I might want to do selective reduction but it would have to be an informed decision between the parents, my husband, and I. After much discussion she said I am going to put in my report that you want selective reduction if they split. I really got frustrated about it because if it happens we have to know all the options for one thing if we selectively reduce it could cause a miscarriage and all of the babies would be gone.I felt as if she did not agree with transferring two and she was going to say whatever she could to get me to not do that. After all that I got a timeline and we are probably looking at a transfer in late August early September. It is not as soon as the parents were wanting but we need to make sure the timing is right so we have the best possible chance for it to work.

A lot on my mind

In my house we are considering a lot of life changes! I am not only doing surrogacy again but there are other things simmering here right now. I don't want to discuss it all yet but most of you probably know what I am talking about. So me being the person I am, I am trying to tackle three boys, baseball, doctors, surrogacy, and a few other things all at once. It is a little stressful but I am handling it as best I can. I think I would be more stressed if I was letting someone else handle it all! I am running in circles and sometimes fear I might drown but with the support of all my friends and family (especially my husband!) I know I will stay afloat. Soon everything will calm down and everything will be how it should be. Just wish me lots of luck on my journeys I am on. Again Thanks to all those who have been supportive!

Rant

Sorry for the rant in my last entry! I found out they are good but the coordinator was out of the office last week and that is why she didn't contact me. So far she seems to be really nice and good at her job. We now have a plan in place in about 3 weeks I will be going to DC for my pretesting! I am excited to get this started! I will have a full day of things going on so we can fit it all in one trip. Once this trip is done just wait for results, legalities, and timing for my body then we will be under way. I know it will not be the June transfer that we hoped for but it will be happening hopefully in July. I can't say for sure because we all know that things can come up and change the plans we have laid out. I am sure the time will be good for my body. I know how impatient one could get during this process but I actually have not been that yet with everything else I had going on this month. It will set in and I will eagerly await the day of the transfer. We are set in motion and I really am ecstatic!